Did you know that most New Year’s resolutions don’t make it past spring? According to a Forbes Health/OnePoll survey, the average resolution lasts just 3.74 months, with 65% of people abandoning their goals within four months. 

To make matters worse, unofficial holidays like ‘Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day’ (January 17) and ‘Quitter’s Day’ (the second Friday in January) highlight how quickly motivation can fade.

If you’ve already started wavering on your resolutions, don’t worry—you’re not alone. More importantly, you’re not doomed to fail. Rather, you can try to understand why your resolutions fail to get back on track.

Reason 1: Focusing outside-in instead of inside-out

Many resolutions stem from a desire to meet external expectations rather than addressing intrinsic needs. Thoughts like “I’m not good enough unless I lose weight” or “I need to succeed to impress others” can undermine your sense of self-worth.

Solution: Start with gratitude and self-appreciation. Reflect on what you’ve already achieved or what’s going well in your life. Build a foundation of self-acceptance, and you’ll gain clarity on what truly matters to you and where your energy is best directed. Pursue goals that align with your values rather than chasing validation from others.

Reason 2: Lack of personalization

It’s easy to fall into the trap of adopting someone else’s method for achieving a goal. For instance, if you’re trying to be more organized, you might copy a colleague’s system only to find it doesn’t suit your needs. A one-size-fits-all approach rarely works, especially for complex or personal goals.

Solution: Tailor your goals to your strengths and circumstances. Start by identifying the next level of improvement for yourself. For example, if you struggle to keep track of ideas, focus on creating a simple system to capture them.

You can use the notes or voice memo app on your phone, write ideas on sticky notes and keep them by your desk, assign deadlines or timeframes to prioritize them, etc. Personalizing your approach makes it easier to stay consistent and feel in control.

Reason 3: Failing to operationalize your goals

Abstract goals like ‘eat healthier’ or ‘get fit’ sound good, but often lack actionable steps. Imagine coming home after a long day, exhausted and unprepared—how likely are you to cook a healthy dinner if it’s not already part of your routine? Starting a new habit requires both energy and an easy-to-follow plan.

Solution: Break your goals into manageable tasks. For example, if your resolution is to eat healthier, consider the steps needed to make that happen:

1. Start small; for example, set your goal for one meal of the day; b. plan for the week; c. shop for ingredients in advance; d. do the meal prep beforehand (e.g., on the weekend or the night before); e. simplify cooking with quick and easy recipes.

Getting back on track

If your resolutions are slipping, don’t give up. Instead, think of the first few weeks as a learning phase—an opportunity to gather insights and refine your approach. Borrow a strategy from agile product development and treat your goal-setting process as a series of ‘sprints.’

Here’s a four-step framework to design your next sprint(s):

Clarify: Reassess why the goal is important to you and what values it is aligned with.

Scope: Smaller is better. Create a minimum viable practice (MVP) from the big goal so the tasks fit your schedule.

Experiment: Test your plan. What works? What needs adjustment?

Retrospect: Reflect on your progress and identify and address the blockers. Use your findings to refine your strategy for the next sprint.

The road to achieving your goals doesn’t have to be linear or perfect. Slipping is a part of the learning process. You can build a lasting habit by addressing the root causes of falling and redesigning it with an experimental and iterative approach. Make this year the one where your goals don’t just survive but thrive.

Sharmin Banu, an Executive Coach since 2009, draws on her extensive tech industry background, notably at Microsoft, and coaches senior leaders in Fortune 500 companies and startups. Specializing in emotional intelligence (EQ) and Executive Presence, Sharmin facilitates leadership excellence that drives team productivity. She holds a BS and MS in computer science and is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) accredited by the International Coaching Federation. A native of Bangladesh and living in the United States for 26 years, Sharmin infuses her coaching practice with a rich global perspective.

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